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I Will Honor My Husband blog site began as a wife's journey to love, honor and cherish her husband everyday for one full year in 2011. The experience was so awesome that I am continuing the journey. As the Lord guides me I will continue to post about how I am honoring my husband on at least a weekly basis. This blog is for me and other wives to learn how to be more intentional in demonstrating our love, honor and respect for our husbands in a way that matters to them most. Last year it was a challenge and a goal to make it a habit, this year I hope to realize the habit as a way of life. I welcome, encourage and invite you to - Join the Movement! and let the world know you honor your husband.

My prayer is that marriages and lives will be changed across the globe by the expression of "One Year of Love". Please send me a picture of you and your husband so the world will know you have joined the movement.

Rochelle

"The Lord, your God is testing you to find out whether you love him with all your heart and all your soul." Deut. 13:3

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Day 2 Honoring Through Encouragement

Today as I sit across the country miles away from my husband, I am truly missing him and wishing he was here.  I had no idea how challenging it would be actually demonstrate honor from afar.  Thank goodness I serve an awesome God who always shows the way.  Yesterday my husband was feeling quite discouraged.  He had just completed some work and lost his wallet.  As we chatted via email, I immediately told him to go into prayer and ask the Lord to lead him to his wallet.  He had everything in his wallet including my ATM card he was to use to transfer money for me and a few hundred dollars in cash.  I could have easily chosen to question him about his whereabouts when he lost it, ask what was he doing, ask him how could he have lost it and contribute to his discouraged spirit.  However, I chose to honor him by acknowledging his feelings, letting him know I felt his disappointment and continued to encourage him that the Lord will bring it back to him.  We did not discuss my ATM card.  It was the least of my concerns.  My main concern was to be with him and provide the necessary encouragement for his spirit.

I shared with him that he has done many of great deeds and this is his time for the Law of Reciprocity.  I shared I believed in my heart he would get it back with everything in order.  When I awoke this morning I had received a text from him stating someone had found his wallet and everything was intact.  This was of no surprise to me, because I know the God we serve. 

How do you encourage your husband when he loses something of value of yours?  Do you help lift him up or do you push him further down?  As women, we often forget, our men have feelings too.  They may not always display them or share them through words, but know they are there.  As wives we have the power to take our husband to another level emotionally.  The challenge is which level.  Honor your husband today by encouraging him emotionally.  Find something that you would not normally acknowledge and tell him how much you notice and appreciate him for it.  It will make his day.  Please share how you encouraged your husband.

Rochelle 

 And she shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth her fruit in her season; her leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever she doeth shall prosper.
Psalm 1:3

4 comments:

Unknown said...

Wow! Excellent story and example you shared, Rochelle about honoring your husband when he looses something. Very nice. I can only honestly say that I HOPE that I would be that caring and warm and accommodating with my husband. I really have to check myself to see if I would have done the same thing. But again....thanks for the example.
Switching gears....I really need to hear from you and other wives about honoring their husbands...in spite of. I'm pissed at my husband right about now. I'm NOT EVEN thinking about honoring him, although I know I should! So...my "issue" is - how do you honor your husband when every limb in your body DOES NOT WANT TO!!!!! Thanks, Deana

Rochelle said...

Dear Deana,

Thank you so much for your question. How do you honor your husband when every limb in your body DOES NOT WANT TO!!!!!? I can tell you it can be quite a challenge and can often feel like going through the motions when our actions are not authentic.

When I find myself in a place where I am frustrated with my husband. one of the first things I do is ask myself the question, "What is going on with me?" and/or "Why and I feeling this way?" I journal a lot so I typically write down what I am feeling and why? Once I am very clear on my feelings and why, I honor my husband by sharing my true feelings with him.

I once heard a sermon by Dr. Tony Evans where he spoke about honoring your mate. In his sermon he mentioned the best way to develop a higher degree of marital initmacy is by sharing our true feelings with our spouse directly and not with someone else. By sharing our true feelings it allows us to free up and release emtional energy. Freeing up our emotional energy allows us to be in a place to honor our marriage, ourselves and our mate. So you know, before I can honor my husband, I really have to honor myself.

Wives of world, we would love to hear your perspective.

Rochelle

ronmar said...

My husband came home from work drained from the job so I made him a nice dinner and we talked I cannot say I encourage him in anyway but it was good evening.

Rochelle said...

Sometimes a full stomach is the best form of encouragement to go about lifes duties. It is not always the major things, but the simple things that makes the greatest difference for our husbands. Rochelle