Today I am honoring my husband through a signal because Bryan had to give me the signal to let me know I was crossing the line. I was sharing a story about the early days of our marriage. To me it was not a big deal, however to him it was sort of a big deal and he felt I was breaking our contract. I am so grateful for our agreement to give each other a clue in the moment so we can change the course of our behavior immediately as to not have a negative impact on each other.
What became very clear to me is that what may seem minor and minimal to me may be significant to him and vice versa. The lesson in all of this is to get agreement to publicly share a story about your marriage beforehand or ask for permission in the moment. The other lesson is the value of having at time of occurrence feedback. I think if we had not made the agreement to give each other a signal, our conversation later in the evening could have been very colorful. When we commit our lives to someone it is our role to uplift them at all times and we may not always know when the other person feels we may not be doing just that. What's most important is that we are uplifting them in a manner that is most important to them and not to us. I find it very interesting when I think something might be a sensitive manner and he feels it is no big deal.
Wives of the world how do you or can you honor your husband through a signal? How can you and your husband give each other a sign in public when either one of you unintentionally crosses the line? Please share your stories with us; we would love to learn from you.
Blessings,
Rochelle
"A signal is comprehended if it serves to make us notice the object or situation it bespeaks." Susanne Langer
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