When I came across the book I began reflecting on just how long or how many books about marriage I have purchased over the years and the books I purchased before Bryan and I got married. There have been quite a few. As I read the first chapter in the book called "The Good Marriage" I realized why.
The authors shared a story about being in the room with over 100 women, married, divorced, widowed and single. They were embarking on the journey to research the secrets to a good marriage and they asked the group to tell them what it is like to be in one. They were surprised at the cynical laughter they received. Many of the women made remarks like, good luck or surely you are not referring to my marriage and other remarks of similar nature.
As I read the content it reminded me of some of the comments I received when I shared with folks that I was starting a blog to honor my husband. I received similar cynical remarks. I was very saddened by some of the comments I heard and felt the same today as I read the book that was written almost 12 years ago. It was a national bestseller and I wondered if it was a bestseller because folks were seeking to understand how to have a good marriage or because they believed one did not exist. In any event I began really thanking the Lord for my marriage and the commitment Bryan and I have made to each other. I still wonder how different many marriages would be if both the husband and wife made a conscious choice to honor and serve each other.
Bryan and I by no means have a perfect marriage but are both the product of divorced parents. We vowed our commitment to work things out at the onset and because of that, today I am honoring my husband with optimism. I know there are a lot of marriages that are struggling; we have had our share of challenges over the years. By no means do I suggest anyone that is in an abusive marriage should take the abuse. Yet I know there are many marriages that are good where both parties are happy. I am honoring my husband with optimism because I believe that is something that has pulled us through with God leading the way. I believe in the sanctity of marriage and I believe God can truly work out anything when he has put two people together.
Wives of the world in what way can you or do you honor your husband with optimism? How can you look to the good, forgive the bad and stay focused on the goal of commitment? Where is your optimism barometer when it comes to your marriage on a scale of 1 to 10? How can you get it to be off the scale? Please share your stories with us; we would love to hear from you.
Blessings,
Rochelle
"Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other.."
1st Corin. 7:2 The Message
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