Day 170 Honoring My Husband As Lover Wife Part III

Post for Friday, August 7, 2011 - I am often surprised at the number of times over the past couple of months the enemy has tried to deter this process and hence my journey.  Yet each time I emerge more committed and determined to forge forward.  When I am not able to get an internet connection the Lord blesses me to ensure I either have pen and paper or can type my post for the day in Word.  Praise be to God for creativity.

Today I am honoring my husband as Lover Wife Part III. Specifically I am honoring him based on the concept of expressing appreciation for "every" task he performs.  Since day 163 and reporting about being a lover wife, I have been paying attention to just how much I hold true to each of the concepts I believed I was doing well.  Then on the heels of that another author speaks about how so many within my husband's age range feel unappreciated.  I put myself to the test and tried to be as authentic in my test of myself.

What I learned was that I do say thank you for just about everything my husband does, however I don't often use the words "I appreciate you doing that" or something to that effect.  I then wanted to go a little further and find out if my husband felt appreciated.  So I prepared myself for the response and asked the question.  "Do you feel that I appreciate you?"  I was somewhat surprised and taken aback at his answer.  His first response was no and then he quickly said well sometimes.  So we entered into a conversation about why, when does he and when does he not.  What I found interesting is that when I asked the question what could be done so he felt more appreciated I got a response that left me in the dark, I don't know.  So then I thought so now what.  This brought me back to the concepts in the For Women Only book about showing appreciation.  So I guess I will begin to put them into regular practice and revisit the question in about a month in the hopes that I have increased my level of being a lover wife.

Wives of the world in what ways can you honor your husband's by going another level in being a lover wife?  Have you ever asked him the question if he feels appreciated?  If not, ask and be ready for the answer.  I believe in the old adage that you do not ask a question you do not want to know the answer to or are not prepared to do something about it.  Please share your stories with us; we would love to hear from you.

Blessings,

Rochelle

"Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well."